Experts say that about a third of gay youth will attempt suicide, which is four times the average of heterosexual youth. Maturity and a stronger sense of self can make it easier to come out as an adult, but how it goes depends a lot on religious beliefs and tolerances already developed among families and friends. Here are some guidelines to make your coming out a bit easier.
Instructions
1. Don't put yourself on a deadline for coming out. Some gay partners who already are out may pressure you, but wait until you are really ready.
2. Start with your friends before your family. Your true friends will appreciate your honesty and be touched you were willing to share. Those who shun you will eventually come around and those who don't were never really your friends to begin with.
3. Delivering the news through a third party is a bad idea. Your family will want to hear it directly from you and will resent finding out from someone else.
4. Avoid coming out in an angry or defensive tone. That creates emotionally charged situations where no one is really listening.
5. Give family members a chance to absorb the news before expecting the worst. If you had good relationships with your parents prior to coming out, chances are they will accept it. It might be right away or it might be a while. Be patient.
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